I’m currently during my 3rd relationship that is interracial.
This is certainly, until you count my very first boyfriend – Jose – whom, when you look at the 2nd grade, long-distance collect-called me personally from Puerto Rico and got me personally in many difficulty with my father. Then it is my 4th interracial relationship.
Even though interracial dynamics constantly add a layer of work to relationship, it is essential to notice that I’m white.
Because whenever you’re a person that is white an interracial relationship, there’s this whole – ohhh, ya understand – white supremacy thing hanging floating around.
And that needs to be acknowledged – and managed – constantly.
Lest your relationship be condemned – along with your “No, Really, I’m a significant person” card be completely revoked.
We don’t stop talking in social justice groups on how to try to be a much better white ally to individuals of color – and a great deal of the Allyship 101 advice can (and really should) be straight placed on our intimate relationships.
But i do believe it is well well worth revisiting these principles in the context of intimate or relationships that are sexual. Because they’re special. And also the real method we practice our allyship in those contexts should mirror that.